Don’t put pressure on
Sometimes we can get really strict with ourselves when it comes to our passion. We imagine that there is this one thing that will make us happy, this one project that will satisfy us forever.
Maybe you are this way, maybe you have found this magical ONE THING that makes you happy, but I’m here to tell you that it’s OK if you haven’t.
And it’s OK not to be sure if the passion you have in your mind at this moment will sustain you for life. Because life is long, and believe it or not, Passions come and go.
One passion does not fit all
What is this obsession we have with the one? I don’t believe in it when it comes to relationships, and I don’t believe in it when it comes to passion. But I wasn’t always like this.
Just a few years ago I thought I had found my greatest passion. I was done with my corporate life, and I wanted out. I felt it didn’t allow me to be as creative and free as I wanted to be, and it didn’t allow me to focus on making a difference on a human level. So I opted out.
I did coaching, yoga and NLP, and loved it. I started my (first) company, and soon my now-husband joined and we turned it into an LLC. I had the opportunity to quit with a small severance package, and off I went to the great unknown. Just me and my passion.
We ended up in the Philippines, running our Yoga & Diving Retreats and managing a resort for someone else. I felt ecstatic. I had done the impossible! I had quit my corporate job in Finland, retrained as a Life Coach and Yoga instructor, and now I was living the Passion on a beach in the Philippines.
When passions die
Nobody had prepared me for the hard reality that followed. Nobody talks about the moment when passions die. The confusing and uncomfortable place of ” what’s next?”
Intellectually I realize it’s a common thing, to reach a goal and then want something else after that, but surely it was not suppose to be the case with your passion? This was going to be my big break, my one and done, my end goal.
Turns out it wasn’t. It wasn’t at all.
It took me a long time to let go. Few years in fact. I had put so much effort into my dream that it had the pressure to perform for me. It didn’t feel good anymore, but I didn’t want to believe it.
On the other side of a Passion
What did I learn from all this?
I learned that it’s a wonderful thing to have many passions in life. And it’s even more wonderful to have the courage to go after your passions, regardless whether they will sustain your interest for a year, or a decade.
I learned a valuable way of life. Instead of wishing, hoping and dreaming of a life on the beach, I did it. Instead of wasting years or decades into thinking “how would life be if I had just gone and done it?” I went and did it.
And now I know. Life on a small island in the Philippines (or wherever) is fun, but it had an expiration date for me. And once that was reached, this dream was over for me. When I see pictures of white sandy beaches and palm trees, they don’t do anything for me.
Because been-there-done-that-what’s-next! instead of wasting a lifetime on wishy-washy, I was done and dusted with my dream #1 in four years. And now I’m wide open to experience new, exciting dreams and make new passions come into reality.
The fun of multiple passions in life
So don’t put pressure on your Passion to be the one-and-only for you. You will not know this unless you try! How could I have known that life on a beach is hot, sweaty and eventually boring for me?
We tend to idolize and romanticize our passions, but the reality can be quite different.
Does it mean you should not go for it? Absolutely not! You should, go go go! Realize those dreams and chase those passions! But be willing to love your passion even if you realize it’s time to let go.
Be open to the possibility that the next passion is just a fun fling, not a life time commitment.
After all, a life full of fun flings? Sign me up, am I right!
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